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- My older brother raised me, and I thought I could pay him back by spoiling his kids. It has created some unexpected issues. (businessinsider.com)
As a child, I was fascinated by everything in stores, especially toys. My older siblings, particularly my brother, helped raise me and often bought me things I wanted. He worked hard to provide for me, and I always appreciated his generosity.
When my nieces and nephews came along, I felt a strong desire to repay my siblings for their kindness. I couldn’t ever truly repay them, but I thought showering their children with gifts was a good start.
At first, I loved buying my nieces and nephews all sorts of presents. It felt good to give back, especially with name-brand items.
However, I soon realized that all those gifts were contributing to clutter in their homes. Other relatives were doing the same, and the kids were overwhelmed with stuff.
I began to worry about the effects of overconsumption on the children. Too many toys can be overstimulating and might shorten their attention spans. They would jump from toy to toy without fully appreciating any of them.
I decided to change my approach to gift-giving. Now, I limit Christmas gifts to two useful or meaningful presents per child. For birthdays, I either ask for specific requests or give cash.
More importantly, I’m prioritizing quality time with my nieces and nephews. We go to arcades, museums, and skating rinks.
We enjoy outdoor activities like hiking, swimming, camping, building snowmen, and sledding. Playing in the park and having snowball fights are some of our favorite pastimes.
These shared experiences have created precious memories. I barely remember the toys they received over the years, but the moments of laughter and fun are etched in my mind.
We’re even planning a big family vacation together, and I’m most excited about simply spending time with them. The years fly by, and the memories we make are truly priceless.