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- My identical twins are very competitive. Their relationship got complicated when one started outperforming the other. (businessinsider.com)
Twin Sons, Twin Rivalry: A Father’s Tale
My identical twin sons, Thomas and Charlie, have been locked in a fierce competition since they were toddlers. One took his first steps, the other followed suit almost immediately. This pattern continued throughout their lives, turning everything from giving up pacifiers to sports and academics into a personal duel.
Their competitive spirit transformed them into fearless athletes on the Australian football field. While they were good teammates, their internal scoreboard always mattered most.
“I scored more goals than my brother,” was a common refrain. This constant drive pushed them to excel, displaying a fearlessness other kids lacked.
A junior coach noticed their aggressive playing style and recruited them on the spot, recognizing the inherent advantage of their twin dynamic.
However, this intensity sometimes led to trouble. One particularly memorable incident involved a head-on collision in our backyard after watching the Australian football grand final, resulting in a trip to the emergency room. Another time, Charlie’s casual approach to checking event times for a track meet resulted in Thomas missing his long jump competition.
Their rivalry also extended to academics. In high school, the focus shifted from achieving good grades to simply outscoring each other.
Even failing an assignment was a win if it meant outperforming their brother. This dynamic created a complex situation when college entrance exam results arrived.
Despite Thomas’s diligent studying, Charlie’s more relaxed approach resulted in a higher score, leading to a bittersweet moment of pride and disappointment.
Despite the challenges, their bond remains strong. They are each other’s fiercest competitors, but also staunch defenders.
They’ve chosen different colleges in the same city, marking a new chapter in their lives. I hope this next phase will see them focus on individual goals rather than constantly trying to one-up each other.
Though, if I’m being honest, I expect the comparisons will continue. As long as it doesn’t lead to any more emergency room visits, I’m okay with that.