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- I’m a dad who took paternity leave 3 times and learned how to do it better each time. Here’s what Scott Galloway got wrong. (businessinsider.com)
Paul Sullivan on Paternity Leave: Building Bonds and Changing Workplace Culture
Paul Sullivan, founder of The Company of Dads and former New York Times columnist, shares his personal journey with paternity leave and challenges comments made by professor and podcaster Scott Galloway regarding the role of fathers in early childcare.
After the birth of his second daughter in 2013, Sullivan made a conscious decision to become what he calls a “lead dad”-the primary caregiver and emotional anchor for his family, even while maintaining his career. This philosophy underpins his media company, The Company of Dads, which supports fathers in balancing work and parenting responsibilities.
Sullivan took paternity leave for each of his three daughters, gradually increasing the time off as he gained confidence. His first leave in 2009 lasted a few weeks, though he prepared work in advance to stay connected professionally.
By 2017, he comfortably took a full month off, fully embracing his role at home. During these leaves, Sullivan managed everything from nighttime feedings to household logistics, emphasizing that these early months were foundational to the close relationships he maintains with his children today.
Responding to Scott Galloway’s recent remarks suggesting fathers might be less critical in the first months of a child’s life, Sullivan stresses the importance of consistent presence and bonding from the very beginning. “You can’t just swoop in 15 years later and think it’s going to work,” he says, underscoring that early involvement shapes lasting trust and connection.
Sullivan also highlights the broader workplace implications of parental leave. While many companies have established policies, true support requires more than just formal leave-it demands a culture that values care days for family emergencies and recognizes the ongoing needs of employees balancing caregiving roles. He warns that dismissive comments like Galloway’s can inadvertently discourage fathers from taking advantage of these benefits, undermining progress toward gender parity in parenting roles.
Ultimately, Sullivan advocates for a holistic approach to workplace support that fosters loyalty and well-being, enabling parents to be fully present both at work and home. His experience illustrates how paternity leave is not just a personal benefit but a critical step toward reshaping societal expectations of fatherhood and family life.