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- I let ChatGPT analyze the chat history between my boyfriend and me. The AI system said my boyfriend is a better communicator. (businessinsider.com)
Can AI Really Give Us Relationship Advice? One Couple Put It to the Test.
One writer decided to try an unusual experiment: she uploaded her entire chat history with her boyfriend into ChatGPT, looking for some unbiased relationship advice. Intrigued, her boyfriend agreed to join the experiment.
The couple’s first question for the AI? “Does Greg love me?”
ChatGPT’s response was a resounding yes, citing examples of “explicit declarations, consistent emotional investment, and sacrificial effort” from their chat logs. The AI even pulled specific quotes as evidence.
In just seconds, it had analyzed over 23,000 messages, neatly organizing its findings. It summarized, “Greg is emotionally invested in you and has expressed love directly and consistently.
His messages show that he cares deeply, wants to support you, and values your relationship.”
Next, the AI tackled emotional availability. It found both partners available, though expressing it differently.
Greg, it determined, shows affection through actions, while the writer expresses herself through words. ChatGPT even awarded Greg the “healthiest communicator” title, citing his patience and consistent communication.
Then came the tough question: “Who cares more?” The AI’s response?
Greg. It pointed to a significant difference in the number of questions asked, with Greg initiating far more conversations.
The writer admits feeling a bit guilty, though her boyfriend insists he’s comfortable with the dynamic. However, the couple agreed to revisit their communication expectations.
ChatGPT’s advice? The writer should initiate contact more often to show appreciation and make Greg feel more pursued.
When asked about its advice’s reliability, ChatGPT explained that it draws on psychology, relationship research, and real-world patterns, but, like any advice, it’s not one-size-fits-all. It also highlighted its use of Attachment Theory and its ability to spot patterns without personal bias.
The experiment provided some humbling insights for the writer, who plans to be more mindful of her communication style. While AI relationship advice might not replace human connection, it certainly offers a unique and potentially valuable perspective.