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- A 29-year-old became a new mom — and months later, caregiver to her dad with Alzheimer’s. She’s part of the growing ‘sandwich generation.’ (businessinsider.com)
Rachael Piltch-Loeb’s life took an unexpected turn when her father, once a picture of health and vitality, received a devastating diagnosis shortly after the birth of her first child. At 58, he was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s, thrusting Piltch-Loeb into the challenging role of caregiver for both her young son and her ailing father.
Piltch-Loeb vividly recalls the early signs of her father’s decline. A former architect, teacher, and avid sportsman, he began experiencing difficulties with directions and driving, a stark contrast to his normally sharp mind. The diagnosis, while not entirely surprising, was a heartbreaking confirmation of the family’s fears.
The diagnosis brought a wave of emotions – anxiety, sadness, and a profound sense of the unknown. The family had to adapt to a new normal, constantly managing her father’s care alongside the demands of a newborn. Simple joys like family gatherings became exercises in logistics, always mindful of her father’s needs and limitations.
The role reversal was particularly difficult for Piltch-Loeb. She missed the support and guidance she once received from her father, now finding herself in the position of caring for him.
The experience brought a unique set of challenges as she navigated the parallels of caring for both a child and a parent simultaneously. Both required supervision, assistance with basic tasks, and a delicate balance between encouraging independence and setting necessary boundaries.
Piltch-Loeb’s experience inspired her to write “The Millennial Caregiver,” a guide for others navigating the practical and emotional complexities of caring for both young children and aging parents. She recognized the lack of resources tailored to her situation, particularly given her father’s younger age and the financial implications of early-onset Alzheimer’s.
Her journey taught her valuable lessons about managing expectations, prioritizing what truly matters, and accepting the unpredictable nature of life. Despite the heartbreak and challenges, Piltch-Loeb cherishes the sweet moments shared between her father and son, memories that remain etched in her heart.