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- My parents gave me a feminine-sounding name. My family made fun of me until I changed it. (businessinsider.com)
From Amarilis to Nathan: A Man’s Journey to Reclaim His Identity
For years, a man known as Amarilis Giovanni wrestled with a deep insecurity. While his male relatives boasted strong, traditional names, his own felt decidedly feminine, a constant source of teasing and self-doubt.
Family gatherings were often painful, the jokes about his name chipping away at his self-esteem. He even resorted to introducing himself by his last name, but the inevitable questions about his first name only reinforced his discomfort.
The story behind his given name was simple enough: his parents, wanting something unique for their last child, combined family names, arriving at Amarilis. They considered it beautiful and distinctive, oblivious to the burden it placed on their son. He often voiced his desire to change it, but his parents, proud of their heritage, insisted he embrace his name as part of his identity.
However, the world outside his family saw things differently. Job applications were frequently misdirected, potential employers assuming Amarilis was a woman.
He even received a letter congratulating “Ms. Amarilis” for pursuing a traditionally male-dominated role in construction.
The constant misgendering and surprised reactions upon meeting him in person underscored the disconnect between his name and his true self.
The turning point came when he met his wife. She offered not ridicule, but understanding and encouragement.
She helped him see that his happiness mattered, and if changing his name was the key, he should pursue it. Inspired, he embarked on the often complicated legal process, eventually emerging with a new name: Nathan Giovanni.
He chose Nathan to honor his beloved great-grandfather, a poignant tribute to a positive male figure in his life.
The name change, however, came at a cost. His parents, deeply rooted in tradition, were furious.
They felt betrayed and ashamed, accusing him of disrespecting his family legacy. The ensuing rift lasted for over a year, a painful period of silence and strained relationships.
While he valued his parents’ approval, he realized he needed to prioritize his own well-being. Reconciliation eventually came, but the experience highlighted the clash between personal identity and familial expectations.
Today, Nathan stands firm in his decision. His only regret is not changing his name sooner. He credits his wife for her unwavering support and for helping him finally embrace the name – and the identity – that truly feels like his own.