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A Parent’s Reflection: The Winding Path to My Son’s Grad School Dream
My son is thriving in graduate school, pursuing a field he truly loves. His journey, however, was far from straightforward.
His undergraduate experience was marked by uncertainty, a hastily chosen major, and ultimately, regret. Looking back, we both agree a gap year might have made all the difference.
The Pressure Cooker of College Decisions
Fresh out of a demanding high school experience, my son felt rushed into making a college decision. He hadn’t had the time or space to truly consider his options or what he wanted for his future. Instead of exploring possibilities like a gap year, he followed the expected path, a decision he now regrets.
Honest Conversations and Career Realities
The struggle became real during his senior year as graduation loomed. The disconnect between his college education and the realities of his chosen field became starkly apparent.
Entry-level jobs didn’t align with his expectations, and the financial prospects were less than appealing. He realized the “get a good job after college” narrative didn’t hold true for his field, requiring further education and significant financial investment.
Finding His Place: Late Bloomers and Community College Wins
Despite the early stumbles, there were silver linings. Attending community college first proved a financially savvy move, allowing him to explore different academic paths at a lower cost before transferring to a four-year university. While he initially missed out on campus life, he eventually found his niche in cheerleading, forging friendships and creating lasting memories.
The Path to Passion
Ultimately, it was therapy, a few years after graduation, that led him to discover his true calling. Now pursuing a career as a licensed professional counselor, he advises aspiring college students to gain real-world experience, talk to professionals, and discover their passions before enrolling in college. His journey underscores the importance of self-discovery and the value of exploring all options, including taking time off before embarking on higher education.