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- My husband and I moved in with my in-laws because we can’t afford a home in Houston. We have zero privacy, but we’re saving money. (businessinsider.com)
Houston Starter Home? More Like Starter Home with the In-Laws!
Midnight dryer sheet debates with your mother-in-law? That’s my life now.
When Houston rent prices started gobbling up our savings a few years ago, my husband and I moved in with his parents. A “temporary” solution that has somehow stretched into three years, two career changes, and countless “still living with the folks?”
jokes from my sister.
While we’re definitely saving money, living in a multigenerational household comes with its own set of challenges. Privacy?
Forget about it. I practically tiptoe around the house, making stealth coffee missions in the morning to avoid early wake-up calls with my mother-in-law.
Date nights involve elaborate escape plans and whispered Netflix choices – thanks to paper-thin walls that share space with my in-laws’ closet. Even simple things like laundry become delicate negotiations, and let’s not even talk about the strategic labeling of leftovers to prevent late-night takeout disappearances.
But it’s not all territorial battles and whispered arguments. There are unexpected perks.
When we both battled COVID, my mother-in-law’s care packages of soup, saltines, and endless mint tea appeared like magic. My father-in-law possesses a grandfatherly superpower to diffuse toddler tantrums (especially those triggered by “incorrectly” cut toast).
And I’ve bonded with my mother-in-law over cooking lessons, learning family recipes passed down through generations.
The truth is, some days are a bit stifling, while others, this arrangement is a lifesaver. In a city where “starter homes” rival luxury listings, living with family keeps our savings account alive.
It’s a built-in support system for daycare emergencies and car breakdowns. It’s a plate of mango slices appearing on a rough day.
The American dream isn’t always a white picket fence. Sometimes, it’s an extra fork at the dinner table, a telenovela-watching in-law on the couch, and the realization that you don’t have to go it alone.
Do I dream of my own place? Absolutely.
I long for the sweet sound of a closing door and guaranteed silence. But when we finally unpack that last box – if we ever do – I know I’ll miss the morning aroma of tortillas, the stories of long-lost relatives, and the chaotic, loving home that redefined family for me.