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- My husband and I opened a joint bank account years before getting married. Pooling our money made us feel like more of a team. (businessinsider.com)
Sharing Finances: How a Joint Bank Account Changed Our Relationship
My partner, Sam, and I were dating for about three years when we first discussed opening a joint bank account. We weren’t married, but we’d just started living together in Canada.
Until then, we meticulously split everything. Sam earned more, but I insisted on paying my share.
He often treated me, but I always tried to reciprocate.
Once we moved in together, splitting every expense felt tedious. Neither of us wanted to track every grocery item or rent payment.
One evening, while Sam was engrossed in a video game, he casually suggested, “Why don’t we just open a joint bank account?” He’d mentioned it before, but I’d hesitated.
At 25, a joint account seemed like a serious, grown-up step, something for married couples with station wagons and mortgages.
But the idea grew on me. It just made sense.
So, one afternoon, we walked into a Bank of Montreal branch and opened our first joint account. I remember us laughing outside the bank afterward, snapping a photo to commemorate the occasion.
It was a relationship milestone I hadn’t anticipated.
That joint account subtly shifted our relationship dynamic. It wasn’t just the convenience – easily paying bills and saving for our South American trip – but a sense of unity.
We were pooling resources, making joint financial decisions, and functioning as a team. We simply agreed on a set amount to contribute weekly, without any formal spending rules or breakup contingencies.
We trusted each other.
We continued this system when we moved to the UK and again back home to Australia. It simplified shared living, travel, and expenses.
After marrying, we refined our approach, creating separate accounts for expenses, individual “fun money,” and savings/investments. This strategy has been crucial for budgeting and living within our means.
Over a decade later, this system still works for us. While some couples keep their finances separate, managing our money together has been integral to our shared goals, especially raising a family.
Looking back, opening that joint bank account was a pivotal moment, even more so than moving in together or getting married. It marked the beginning of our true financial partnership.