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- My aging father moved in with my family 14 years ago. I’ve learned a lot about how I want to prepare for my own retirement. (businessinsider.com)
Fourteen years ago, my dad moved in with my family. He’s 82 now, and we’re still sharing a home.
It’s been a journey, that’s for sure. Being part of the “sandwich generation” is no joke – juggling kids and an aging parent requires a special kind of energy.
I always figured Dad would eventually live with us, even if he didn’t see it coming. The biggest hurdle was the move itself.
He came from another state, leaving behind everything familiar. We became his support system, and thankfully, things worked out.
At first, it was pretty smooth sailing. Dad was 68 when his partner passed, and his finances weren’t exactly robust.
For a few years, he was independent – driving, grocery shopping, and socializing. He quickly became “Grampy” to everyone, and with our extended family scattered, it was a blessing to have him around as our kids grew up.
Having a separate in-law suite gave us all much-needed space, a key ingredient to successful multigenerational living.
Things shifted when Dad’s macular degeneration worsened. At 77, he had to give up driving, and that’s when my role changed significantly.
Managing his medications, appointments, and errands became part of my routine. It’s not exactly a parent-child dynamic, but it’s more than just daughterly support.
The hardest part is navigating his pride as he grapples with his loss of independence. It’s tough to accept limitations, even if your mind feels younger than your body.
This experience has shaped my own vision of retirement. While financial security is important, I’ve realized that maintaining physical and mental health is even more crucial. I’m focusing on self-care now, so I can enjoy my later years to the fullest.
Living with Dad has taught me so much about love, resilience, and the true meaning of security. We’ve been able to provide that for him, and I cherish every moment – the stories, the laughter, the ups and downs.
It’s a reminder that life is about family. We all live, we all age, and I’m determined to do it gracefully, armed with the wisdom gained from these past 14 years.