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- I loved the brotherhood of being a firefighter. Once I became a millionaire, I no longer felt like one of the crew. (businessinsider.com)
From Firehouse to Fortune: The Unexpected Loneliness of a Multimillionaire Entrepreneur
Jeremy Barker, founder and CEO of Murphy Door, shares his candid journey from a $6.13 an hour firefighter to a $150 million net worth, revealing the unexpected challenges wealth can bring to personal relationships.
Once a dedicated firefighter, passionate about a career that offered a strong sense of camaraderie, Jeremy Barker found himself at a crossroads. Despite loving the “brotherhood” of the firehouse, the meager $6.13 hourly wage wasn’t enough to build the life he envisioned. This realization sparked his entrepreneurial spirit, leading him down a winding path that eventually birthed Murphy Door, a company specializing in ingenious hidden doors and storage solutions.
Barker’s journey to success was far from linear. His 20s saw him making good money in the garage and shed business, only to lose it due to a lack of financial savvy and a penchant for partying, even leading to a year of living out of his car. The subsequent decade was a series of ventures, including RV sales and a successful construction business, which ultimately fell victim to the 2008 financial crisis.
By 33, Barker was once again in a tight spot, leading him back to the fire station in 2010. The pay was still low at roughly $380 a week, but the job’s predictability and benefits were a welcome change. Here, he rediscovered the deep bonds with his colleagues, who became like family, sharing holidays and leisure time together.
It was two years into his return to firefighting that Barker launched Murphy Door. What started as a side hustle, fueled by his love for pressure, quickly began to demand more of his time.
As the company grew, so did the distance between Barker and his firefighter friends. Missing outings and prioritizing his burgeoning business, he soon found himself an outsider.
By 2015, Murphy Door had surpassed $1 million in annual sales, yet Barker was still drawing his firefighter’s wage of $15.75 an hour. This financial disparity began to create friction. His colleagues, noticing his relentless work ethic, started to tease him, and Barker felt a constant need to affirm that he didn’t feel superior.
The turning point came in 2016. Barker’s fire chief, observing his divided attention, encouraged him to prioritize his company and family. This difficult conversation, coupled with a stark realization at home about his absence, led Barker to resign from the firehouse the very next day.
Now 50, with a net worth of approximately $150 million, Barker continues to work 16-hour days. While wealth has provided the means to connect with his children through activities and even private plane travel for games, the challenge of spending quality time remains amidst their busy schedules. He intentionally unplugs during family vacations to be present.
Barker cherishes a small circle of old friends with whom he can escape the pressures of wealth and business, finding the genuine connection he misses from his firehouse days. He admits to a persistent drive, still seeking a sense of peace that eludes him.
The impact of his wealth on relationships has been profound and, at times, negative. Barker grapples with the constant question of whether people’s affection is genuine or superficial.
He desires reciprocal relationships, where he can confide and be supported, much like the brotherhood he once knew. While he enjoys helping others, he struggles with requests for financial assistance from those who haven’t attempted to help themselves.
Barker still picks up part-time firefighting shifts occasionally, enduring playful jabs about his millionaire status and requests for advice. Yet, he yearns for a mentor himself, for someone to listen and debrief with him. “I just want to be the same person I’ve always been, but I can’t,” he reflects, highlighting the isolating nature of his success.