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Local Mom Ponders “One and Done” as Societal Pressure to Expand Families Mounts
Local, USA – The age-old question, “When are you having another?” often aimed at new parents, is proving to be more than just a casual inquiry for many, including local mom, May Baker. Fresh off the intense experience of postpartum life, Baker was taken aback by the immediate expectation from others to expand her family, a sentiment that has only grown louder over the past year.
Raising children in today’s world presents a unique set of challenges. With economic strains, astronomical costs for housing and food, and often limited support systems, the decision to have even one child is a significant commitment. Baker, like many parents, finds herself constantly “doing more with less,” navigating the complexities of modern parenthood.
For Baker, the decision to have her son was already a deeply personal and difficult one. Now, with her child here, she expresses immense joy and love, but questions the relentless external pressure to provide him with a sibling.
She points out that her son is surrounded by a loving network of parents, grandparents, and friends, challenging the notion that a built-in playmate is a necessity. “It isn’t my responsibility to provide my child with a built-in playmate,” she asserts, highlighting the anxiety and self-doubt these comments can stir.
Baker emphasizes her desire to give her son 100% of her attention. While her heart could undoubtedly make room for another child, she questions whether it’s the right choice for her family. She feels her family is complete with her son, and she cherishes being fully present for him rather than tending to a new infant.
Beyond her son’s well-being, Baker also considers her own aspirations. She believes motherhood shouldn’t necessitate abandoning her individual identity and goals.
The thought of revisiting sleepless nights, toilet training, and temper tantrums for another decade is not an appealing prospect. She looks forward to the coming years when her son is older, making outings, travel, and dining experiences more enjoyable.
The age factor also plays a role in the Bakers’ decision. As older parents (her husband is 40, and she is 36), their energy levels are a considerable factor. The idea of navigating another pregnancy and the newborn phase with a toddler in tow feels daunting.
While the “one and done” decision isn’t 100% final for the Bakers, it’s becoming an increasingly likely reality. Baker advocates for normalizing the concept of having only one child, asserting that it can be just as fulfilling and meaningful as having a larger family. Ultimately, she stresses that this deeply personal decision rests solely with the parents, free from external opinions and pressures.
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