LOS ANGELES — I don’t think I’ve ever hugged anyone for this long in my life.
A few seconds ago, I was standing across from a total stranger. Now we’re in a full embrace, arms wrapped around each other. Honestly, I can’t even remember the person’s name − and I’ve already forgotten how long the hug is supposed to last. A coordinator named Beth, with soft eyes and a tranquil smile, has been guiding us through various touch-based exercises, and I know she’s going to tell us when it’s time to let go. Still, it feels like a century.
So far this evening, I’ve stared into the eyes of a stranger for over three minutes and placed my hand over another person’s heart with their hand over mine. But this exercise — a long hug — is basically the final boss of The Feels (and perhaps the exercise the touchy singles mixer is best known for). And I’m determined to stick it out, no matter how awkward I may feel.
The Feels is a singles mixer that employs various touch-based techniques aimed at getting participants to learn more about themselves, chip away at their defenses and, maybe just maybe, fall in love along the way. The Level 1 experience, which I attended, typically costs around $90-100, and, in October, I had the opportunity to observe the Level 2 version and interview Allie Hoffman, the mastermind behind The Feels. During my reporting for that story, Hoffman encouraged me to try The Feels for myself in November. Curiosity piqued, I couldn’t pass up the opportunity…